Well, perhaps this is it. A significant weekend in my life.

But first some breaking news. HairDye - Sand's best friend and previous prophylactic in clear-the-air talks - has apparently become something of a stalker to him. Clinging and demanding attention, not keen on him seeing other people, "sad that he likes boys". I don't think it has quite dawned on him yet but it is pretty clear that she wants his babies.

And it kind of clarifies a few things about her and the dynamics of what has been going on.

I said we'd have a heart-to-heart and try and sort a few things out about that situation. However, it does beg the question about how I take it from here. He now has two people who have become possessive, jealous and controlling on him (HairDye and the ex). In his mind, what is there to say that I won't become the same? If I say anything will I be taking advantage of a fragile situation?

Yet, here is the opportunity to show myself as the strong, independent person who recognises his needs not only to be with someone, but to be an individual. The last thing I want is some cloying, oppressive relationship with the nature of my job, my goals for this year and my geographically scattered but close friends.

I fear that the timing could not be worse.

But if I don't take this opportunity now - when will the next one arise?

So it is time for decisive action. I just hope that I am a good salesman.

Wish me luck. The answer will probably come in music video format on Sunday...