Sand has two names. He's one of these chaps who has three forenames then his surname. The third is his grandfather's name. The first two are interchangeable. I see where he is coming from beacuse my mum had a similar problem. Her first name is the one she goes by name, but her second name is what my Grandma and her family called my mum. She didn't like it because she considered it a boys name. However, as the numbers of ther family dwindle to the last remaining people I think she is finding it easier to cope with.
Sand struggles with the two. And they are far from abnormal names. Thomas, Edward anyone? I always initially new him as Thomas or Tom. His family/friends call him Ed/Edward. I think Tom has become his "special interest" (i.e. man love) name. Yesterday he changed his facebook name ot include both. Now my psychoanalytical crap in me thinks this may be significant, that he is becoming more accepting of his identity and who he is.
I saw this after a wee conversation with him last night in which I explicitly said I was keen to meet up with him to clear the air. He seems a bit oblivious to it all and didn't realise anything was wrong. I tried to reassure and say I was just being sensitive but that I would value some time. So we'll see. He's a soft lad but he's icredibly hard to stay angry at.
I need to keep my do-gooder hat far, far away when we do have our tete a tete.
